Yo Mama

Parents can be a strange breed. And I can say that with all confidence because a) I'm not a parent, and b) I've observed the same strangeness in my own parents!

When I was younger I got picked on. I wouldn't say I was bullied, but my diaries were filled with some mean thoughts about the unkindness of others. I remember telling my parents about how cruel some kids had been to me at school and my dad threatening to go over there and talk to them. One time, in second grade, my teacher slapped me across the face for correcting my work in pencil instead of black pen (don't worry, it was in France and they can get away with that kind of stuff over there). The next day, my dad came charging into the school yard, yelling in his newly-learned/broken French at my teacher. I think he managed the words "mean", "old lady" and "fired".

All of this to say that parents' protectiveness seems to come in many forms. Some students' parents do all that they can to get their kids into special education, to get them access to the services they need (or what the parents decide that they need). Some students' parents, as I've discovered today, do all that they can to keep their kids OUT of special education, regardless of whether their kids need the services or not.

I received a particularly angry/frustrated/defensive email this morning from a mother of a kindergartner who may qualify for special education services. There were entire words written in CAPITAL LETTERS, so I knew she was SERIOUS. The details of the letter aren't really important. What's important is that my heart kind of broke (or at least bent) for this mother. Irregardless of what I believe professionally, this woman's motivation was purely to protect her son from what she viewed to be a bad thing.

And I hope that my sympathy and understanding for her will put me in a better position to help her to see reason....

5 comments:

Randy et Jan said...

Amen. dad

Anonymous said...

ANGRY PARENTS ARE LIKE WILD ANIMALS PROTECTING THEIR YOUNG EVEN THE NICE ONES CAN CUT YOU REALLY DEEP AND WALK AWAY FEELING LIKE A HERO...

Anonymous said...

PROTECTIVE mothers are the most FIERCE...

roller coaster teacher said...

Sometimes parents are angry because they are being loving and protective, and in those cases, I try to empathize and be as helpful as possible. Sometimes angry parents are just ... people who are miserable and make other people miserable.

Anonymous said...

And that's just one reason you are a great teacher!
:) Brenda

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